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First things first, I cut my hair! A big chunk of sad old vibes and heavy thoughts that grew right out of my brain into my hair dragging it down, came off. Such a relief. Followed by outfit of the day.
before & after

before & after

arranging the deco in New Look maxi dress // primark jacket and scarf

Arranging the decor in New Look maxi dress // primark jacket and scarf

Peeking through the window in New Look maxi dress // primark shirt

Peeking through the window in New Look maxi dress // primark shirt

Look at it, so pretty from this angle!

Look at it, flowers and everything. And so pretty from this angle!

See? Told you.
See? Told you.

Instant slimmification DIY

I found this shirt and it's in the perfect colour (it's a warm orange/brown, of course it doesn't show on camera!), but the neckline is super unflattering and neck-shortening. The rounder your upper body, the better you'll look with a v-neck. I have an easy fix for your round-neck tops, that doesn't only give you a nicer neckline, it also accentuates the booby-area nicely and can lift the waistline, depending on how deep you pull it. And depending on the item. It only takes a few minutes and everybody can do it, all you need is needle and thread. By the way, I used white yarn so you can see what I'm doing. I suggest to use yarn in the same colour as your whatever-you-wanna-v-neckify. If you haven't got the exact one, always go for a darker colour, it shows the least. Here we go:
find the midpoint of the neckline

find something round-necked (duh!)

find the midpoint of the neckline

find the midpoint of the neckline

if you need to, mark a straight line, appr. 12cm (5inch) from the midpoint you just found

if you need to, mark a straight line, appr. 12cm (5inch) from the midpoint you just found

make your first stitch from the inside going up, inside the seam not quite up to the edge

make your first stitch on the inside of the neckband going up...

make your first stitch from the inside going up, inside the seam not quite up to the edge

... inside the seam, not quite up to the edge

now poke the needle in about 5mm under the neckline from the inside out

now poke the needle in about 5mm under the neckline from the inside out

and back down about 1cm - voila! First proper stitch completed!

and back down about 1cm.

voila! First proper stitch completed!

voila! First proper stitch completed!

repeat on a straight line downwards.

repeat on a straight line downwards.

end with a stitch inside the shirt

end with a stitch inside the shirt

pull on the string

pull on the string

check if it's v-necky enough, if not, add some more stitches

check if it's v-necky enough, if not, add some more stitches

now poke the needle upwards on the inside through all the folds you just created

now poke the needle upwards on the inside through all the folds you just created

tie a knot

tie a knot

slimmification process completed

slimmification process completed

before

nay

after

yay

I need a boyfriend

  love yourselfSome of you might be single. In fact, many beautiful men and women are single. For many different reasons. In your case, it's a no brainer - it's because you're big (= un-loveable). But in reality it might have more to do with not loving yourself. Being afraid of rejection, being hurt. Afraid of getting really close to somebody. As soon as you become your best friend however (and your most loving lover), you will attract people into your life who reflect that. You can have a great, loving relationship too. But you have to love yourself first. Everything else is a struggle. For you and for your partner. Imagine your boyfriend tells you how beautiful he thinks you are.  You think he must be kidding, must be blind. You might not let him touch you, because you feel so insecure. You are under permanent inner stress, because you fear you are not good enough and could lose him. If he wants to go out with his friends, you are afraid he could find somebody better (because you are not worthy of his love). You might try to control and manipulate. Jealousy, stress and tension builds up and he might soon have enough. "See, he didn't love me!" you cry. But he did. You just couldn't believe it. You didn't love yourself. Start with loving yourself first. Watch this video. And you will see that if you have no boyfriend, you don't need one right now. And as soon as you love and appreciate yourself, you will attract someone who loves you too.  And that time round, you can actually believe it. ;) www.youtube.com
Byron Katie and some cute girl are discussing self-love

Byron Katie and some cute girl are discussing self-love