- "You have an amazing bum!" - "No I haven't!" - "Yes, you do! I am jealous!" - "No I don't, don't even go there!" *angry* "Don't make me more insecure than I already am!"
I heard this in a dressing room today. Poor girl, just wanted to make her friend feel good. And she was probably just honest and said what she thought in the moment. Her friend not only didn't believe her, it made her feel insecure! A compliment like that should make you happy, not insecure to the point that you get angry. If she would like herself, she would have just said "thank you" and added it to her gratitude list under compliments received. That's what you should do next time you get a compliment. Even if you think it's not true, don't say it. Saying it out loud would only give it more power. Count one, two, three. Say "Thank you!" And add it to your list of awesomeness. If you haven't got one yet, make one.
Love yourself. You are beautiful and your bum is amazing! <3
How to find the right partner? First, find out what you really want. If you like red, don't go for blue. It's up to you! :)
There is love and there is passion. Best case, you have both in a relationship. Worst case, there is only passion. And only love can be pretty boring too… That a guy likes to have sex with you, doesn’t tell you anything. Except that he likes to have sex with you. You might think of your body being wobbly, fat and unattractive. And you think he must be really into you, if he likes to have sex with you. But it could also be that he gets turned on by big bums and is simply into chubby girls.
Of course it is great to have a sexual experience with somebody who absolutely loves your body. But that is nothing compared to a sexual experience with somebody who loves your soul too. How can you differentiate? Like everybody else:
- Is he caring? - Does he treat you in a loving and friendly way? - Is he a good friend? - Does he listen? - Is he there for you when you need him? - Does he make you feel good? - Do you have things in common? - Did he introduce you to his friends?
If you can tick most of the boxes, it’s looking good!
And what if he tells you he loves you but wants you to lose weight? Unless you are not ill and he is seriously worried about your health, send him into hyperspace! Look, that is not real love. Just think of it the other way round: If you like a quiet, sensitive man, why would you be with a loud and outgoing guy? And wish for him to be different? That doesn’t make sense. First find out what you want and what you need in a relationship. Be honest with yourself. If you are open to love, you will find a loving partner. One who loves you not because you are big, not despite you being big, but because of you.
Embracing your curves is one thing. Flaunting all bulgy bits is another. If you are more in and out in different places than smoothly curved, here is a trick for you that doesn't involve plastic-polyester intestine-squeezing combat spanks. Just layer it up nicely. Wear undies that go over your tummy and not squash the sides. Pair them with thin leggings and a figure hugging cami-dress and add your top layer whatever dress. Job done!