Teens can be insecure. Don't feed into that.
If I had kids, there is one thing I would give them on their way: confidence.
I would let them know that their worth is not depending on the amount of twitter, tumbler, instagram, facebook, pinterest or snapchat followers, “friends” or likes. I would tell them they are worthy, even if they mess up in school, do things I don’t like them to do, are lazy, smelly, rebellious, messy or just in puberty. I would encourage them to love themselves the way they are. Tell them that they could improve without trying to become a completely different person, because the person they already are is an amazing, unique, creative, intelligent human being. I would encourage them to dream big, learn lots, to be kind and tolerant.
If you have kids, especially if you struggle with confidence yourself, try not to show it to them. Don’t say how bad you feel about yourself, don’t let them see you dieting and crying over a dress that doesn’t fit you anymore. Be the happy, content, loving person you would like your child to grow into. Because that’s probably what happens, even if you can’t see it right now.
Offer healthy food
If they eat too much, don’t tell them how fat they are going to be if they continue to stuff food into their mouth. All that you are teaching them is, that they are “not ok”, “not loveable”, if they are not “the norm”, bigger than some other kids. Instead, you
do the work: Offer them lots of sweet fruits like grapes, bananas, melon, apples and cook healthier without telling them. Encourage them to do more sporty activities without mentioning weight loss. Don’t make it a big deal and it won’t be.
No, I haven’t got kids myself and I know it’s far more complex and difficult when you are in a situation yourself. But if you just apply a few of those things, you might already turn their thinking, their beliefs and possibly their life around. I would say it’s worth a try.
And if you haven’t got kids, like me, make yourself that child.