You don’t have to try so hard…

Try - Colbie Caillat Put your make up on Get your nails done Curl your hair Run the extra mile Keep it slim So they like you. Do they like you? Get your sexy on Don't be shy, girl Take it off This is what you want, to belong So they like you. Do you like you? You don't have to try so hard You don't have to give it all away You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up You don't have to change a single thing You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try Yoooou don't have to try Ooooo, oooooo, oooooo... Get your shopping on, At the mall, Max your credit cards You don't have to choose, Buy it all So they like you. Do they like you? Wait a second, Why should you care, what they think of you When you're all alone, by yourself Do you like you? Do you like you? You don't have to try so hard You don't have to give it all away You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up You don't have to change a single thing You don't have to try so hard You don't have to bend until you break You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up You don't have to change a single thing You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try Yoooou don't have to try Oooooo, oooooo Oooooo, oooooo You don't have to try so hard You don't have to give it all away You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up You don't have to change a single thing You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try You don't have to try Take your make up off Let your hair down Take a breath Look into the mirror, at yourself Don't you like you? Cause I like you

One dress, three looks

  I played around with Polyvore again and found this blue dress, which is similar to one I own. These examples show how you can take any piece in your wardrobe and make it look completely different by changing jacket, shoes and accessories. This kind of dress is easy to find and it fits every body shape. By adjusting the belt, you make the most of yours. If you haven't got a waist, belt it under your bust. If you have a waist, belt it around there. Try to find a dress that hugs your figure instead of being too loose. Except when your shoulders are broader than your hips. In that case get a bigger one and create a ruched effect around the waist, so the bottom part looks wider. Take a bigger belt and wear it right under your bust. A bit like on the picture, but don't be shy with it. The more frill on the bottom, the more balanced and hourglassy you will look. The length depends on your height. If you are tall, you can wear any length. Ankle length or right above the knee will fit shorter girls best.  
Expensive and elegant combined with sleek black items

Expensive and elegant - combined with sleek black items

Dressed down in brown. Still chic but more relaxed

Dressed down in brown. Still chic but more relaxed

Another kind of elegant combined with rose gold and light beige

Another kind of elegant - combined with rose gold and beige

Late Summer finds

Summertime! The temperatures in London are around 25C, mostly sunny. Not an excellent Summer, but who wants to melt in 40C when you have a day job to do and a life to live? I have 2 outfit ideas for you, involving kaftan-tunics, I hope you like them.  
Jeans and flower tunic

Jeans and flower tunic. This style looks good on every body

City chic in turquoise, warmed up with dark red. Suits every body

City chic in turquoise, warmed up with dark red. Suits every body

Dare to be yourself

image One of the most important steps on our way to self-love is to open ourselves to the idea that we are perfect. Perfectly imperfect, exactly as we are. Look at who you are. Look at who you wish you were. If you are a tomboyish kind of girl, be that. Don't waste energy on trying to be girly. Not only will it be tiring to you and add to your feeling of "not being right", you will be perceived by others as insecure or "off". Only by being who you are, you radiate in such a wonderful way, that others will find you "interesting, captivating and confident." Without any effort on your side. Should you be on the lookout for a boyfriend, or new friends, this is extremely important too. You can only find the right people who will love you for being you, when you ARE you. Of course that requires some kind of self awareness. Become honest with yourself. Maybe you admire a beautiful, outgoing girl in your school. And you would love to be like her. But are you? Do you think you could if you were skinnier? Chances are you wouldn't. Girls who are like her are like that, no matter what size they are. Maybe you are a little introvert. Don't force yourself to be different. Accept who you are. The world needs bold and quiet people. Maybe this bubbly girl is not such a good artist, writer or listener as you are. Find things you are really good at. Focus on those traits. Once you find one, you will discover more. Are you a good friend? Talk about it, write about it, be it. At some point you will not even feel the need to compare yourself to others anymore. That's when you love yourself. And accept others for who they are. No more judgement.

How to love yourself if you don’t

  The same principle as for becoming more confident applies: Fake it until you make it.
What would someone who loves themselves do?

What would someone who loves themselves do?

Make this question you mantra: "What would someone who loves themselves do?" Any decision you are facing, big or small, ask this question and do what first comes to your mind. For example when you decide what to wear to school or work, ask "what would someone who loves themselves wear?" Listen to the answer that pops up in your head and then do it. That way you tell your subconscious mind that you love yourself. Because you act exactly like somebody who already does, according to your question and suggestion. The more often you do it, the faster it will eventuate. I interpreted this amazing practice developed by Teal Swan - tealswan.com