You don’t have to try so hard…

Try - Colbie Caillat Put your make up on Get your nails done Curl your hair Run the extra mile Keep it slim So they like you. Do they like you? Get your sexy on Don't be shy, girl Take it off This is what you want, to belong So they like you. Do you like you? You don't have to try so hard You don't have to give it all away You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up You don't have to change a single thing You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try Yoooou don't have to try Ooooo, oooooo, oooooo... Get your shopping on, At the mall, Max your credit cards You don't have to choose, Buy it all So they like you. Do they like you? Wait a second, Why should you care, what they think of you When you're all alone, by yourself Do you like you? Do you like you? You don't have to try so hard You don't have to give it all away You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up You don't have to change a single thing You don't have to try so hard You don't have to bend until you break You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up You don't have to change a single thing You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try Yoooou don't have to try Oooooo, oooooo Oooooo, oooooo You don't have to try so hard You don't have to give it all away You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up You don't have to change a single thing You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try, try, try, try I, I You don't have to try You don't have to try Take your make up off Let your hair down Take a breath Look into the mirror, at yourself Don't you like you? Cause I like you

Dare to be yourself

image One of the most important steps on our way to self-love is to open ourselves to the idea that we are perfect. Perfectly imperfect, exactly as we are. Look at who you are. Look at who you wish you were. If you are a tomboyish kind of girl, be that. Don't waste energy on trying to be girly. Not only will it be tiring to you and add to your feeling of "not being right", you will be perceived by others as insecure or "off". Only by being who you are, you radiate in such a wonderful way, that others will find you "interesting, captivating and confident." Without any effort on your side. Should you be on the lookout for a boyfriend, or new friends, this is extremely important too. You can only find the right people who will love you for being you, when you ARE you. Of course that requires some kind of self awareness. Become honest with yourself. Maybe you admire a beautiful, outgoing girl in your school. And you would love to be like her. But are you? Do you think you could if you were skinnier? Chances are you wouldn't. Girls who are like her are like that, no matter what size they are. Maybe you are a little introvert. Don't force yourself to be different. Accept who you are. The world needs bold and quiet people. Maybe this bubbly girl is not such a good artist, writer or listener as you are. Find things you are really good at. Focus on those traits. Once you find one, you will discover more. Are you a good friend? Talk about it, write about it, be it. At some point you will not even feel the need to compare yourself to others anymore. That's when you love yourself. And accept others for who they are. No more judgement.

How to love yourself if you don’t

  The same principle as for becoming more confident applies: Fake it until you make it.
What would someone who loves themselves do?

What would someone who loves themselves do?

Make this question you mantra: "What would someone who loves themselves do?" Any decision you are facing, big or small, ask this question and do what first comes to your mind. For example when you decide what to wear to school or work, ask "what would someone who loves themselves wear?" Listen to the answer that pops up in your head and then do it. That way you tell your subconscious mind that you love yourself. Because you act exactly like somebody who already does, according to your question and suggestion. The more often you do it, the faster it will eventuate. I interpreted this amazing practice developed by Teal Swan - tealswan.com

I gained weight – and lost – and gained…

2012 was a year of change. I left a 7-year dead-end relationship and entered a 2-year on-and-off one, that caused a complete meltdown. During the first year I lost 80 lbs. Everybody complimented me on my weight loss. Well - yes, I lost weight. But I also went through the worst depression of my life, which everybody seemed to ignore. "At least you look so much better now that you lost weight, you must feel wonderful!" Ironically, I started loving myself as I was, so I didn't feel the need to lose more weight. It just continued because I couldn't eat anything for a while and my relation to food completely changed. I didn't notice any hunger during the day until I got stomach ache (that could be 4pm) And then I ate what I wanted. And I stopped when I was full. I continued to lose more and more weight and my skin started sagging. Upper arms, tummy, boobs, even my face lost shape. Of course I didn't want to go back to unhealthy eating habits of the past, but I didn't want to lose more weight either. Thankfully I managed to establish a routine and it leveled out. I gained about 20 lbs back. For the most part I consider myself healed from childhood wounds and self-hate. I feel confident, self-loving and content in my own body for the first time of my life. I love myself exactly as I am: soft, curvy and happy.
That was me 2012

That was me 2012

That was me 2014

That was me 2014

That's me now, 2015 starring as Russian Ice Skating Princess

That's me now, 2015 starring as Russian Ice Skating Princess

 

My girl crush, Fluvia Lacerda <3

This Lady has it all. Style, sex-appeal and curves at all the right places. Fluvia Lacerda. She is sooo pretty! <3 She is the living proof that every woman can look amazing, beautiful, sexy, desirable, with that little bit of effort. For more beautiful big Ladies check out my tumblr. For more Fluvia check out her instagram.
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