How to love yourself if you don’t

  The same principle as for becoming more confident applies: Fake it until you make it.
What would someone who loves themselves do?

What would someone who loves themselves do?

Make this question you mantra: "What would someone who loves themselves do?" Any decision you are facing, big or small, ask this question and do what first comes to your mind. For example when you decide what to wear to school or work, ask "what would someone who loves themselves wear?" Listen to the answer that pops up in your head and then do it. That way you tell your subconscious mind that you love yourself. Because you act exactly like somebody who already does, according to your question and suggestion. The more often you do it, the faster it will eventuate. I interpreted this amazing practice developed by Teal Swan - tealswan.com

Your bum is amazing!

Tess Munster, awesome plus size model. Check her out on tumblr!

Tess Munster, aweseome plus size model. Check her out on tumblr: tessmunster.tumblr.com

- "You have an amazing bum!" - "No I haven't!" - "Yes, you do! I am jealous!" - "No I don't, don't even go there!" *angry* "Don't make me more insecure than I already am!" I heard this in a dressing room today. Poor girl, just wanted to make her friend feel good. And she was probably just honest and said what she thought in the moment. Her friend not only didn't believe her, it made her feel insecure! A compliment like that should make you happy, not insecure to the point that you get angry. If she would like herself, she would have just said "thank you" and added it to her gratitude list under compliments received. That's what you should do next time you get a compliment. Even if you think it's not true, don't say it. Saying it out loud would only give it more power. Count one, two, three. Say "Thank you!" And add it to your list of awesomeness. If you haven't got one yet, make one. Love yourself. You are beautiful and your bum is amazing! <3  

Confidence vs. self-worth

You can be confident and feel good about yourself - how you look, your job, about being a good friend, being creative - and still don't feel worthy. Confidence is more about what you can do. Your abilities and how you interact with the world. Self-worth is connected to self-love. It goes much deeper. That’s why you can be confident and still lack self-worth. If you feel worthy, your confidence is usually up too. That’s because if you love yourself and know you are worthy of all the good things in life, chances are you believe in yourself and your abilities. Are you confident? Do you like yourself in the mirror? Do you know you are a good friend? Can you speak in front of your friends without feeling awkward? Do you laugh out loud when you find something funny? Can you speak in front of your class? Do you complain in a restaurant if something isn’t right? - You are probably confident. How about your self-worth? Do you know you deserve the best? Are you surrounded by people who love and accept you for who you are? A major question (and I think here it really shows): Are you with the right guys? If you always end up in unhealthy relationships - with boys that are messing around with you: cheaters, timewasters, guys who are not really into you, you might feel deep inside you are not good enough, not loveable. Here is the truth: You are worth it. You are good enough. You are loveable. You are worth loving. You deserve a loving relationship. You deserve being happy. Look in the mirror and say to yourself: I am worth it. I am good enough. I am loveable. I am worth loving. I deserve a loving relationship. I deserve being happy. Go on, DO IT! I know it seems daft at first. But if you do it for a while, it will change you. It’s not saying it, that does the change. But because you look at yourself and say it (as if it was true), your mind starts working on it. And that will bring the awareness and the change. I know it does, I experienced it myself. How about you, are you feeling worthy?