Dare to be yourself

image One of the most important steps on our way to self-love is to open ourselves to the idea that we are perfect. Perfectly imperfect, exactly as we are. Look at who you are. Look at who you wish you were. If you are a tomboyish kind of girl, be that. Don't waste energy on trying to be girly. Not only will it be tiring to you and add to your feeling of "not being right", you will be perceived by others as insecure or "off". Only by being who you are, you radiate in such a wonderful way, that others will find you "interesting, captivating and confident." Without any effort on your side. Should you be on the lookout for a boyfriend, or new friends, this is extremely important too. You can only find the right people who will love you for being you, when you ARE you. Of course that requires some kind of self awareness. Become honest with yourself. Maybe you admire a beautiful, outgoing girl in your school. And you would love to be like her. But are you? Do you think you could if you were skinnier? Chances are you wouldn't. Girls who are like her are like that, no matter what size they are. Maybe you are a little introvert. Don't force yourself to be different. Accept who you are. The world needs bold and quiet people. Maybe this bubbly girl is not such a good artist, writer or listener as you are. Find things you are really good at. Focus on those traits. Once you find one, you will discover more. Are you a good friend? Talk about it, write about it, be it. At some point you will not even feel the need to compare yourself to others anymore. That's when you love yourself. And accept others for who they are. No more judgement.

Skip 10 years of unhappiness

Pretty plus size model found on plusmodelmagazine. tumblr.com

Pretty plus size model found on plusmodelmagazine. tumblr.com

I just found and re-tumbled this picture. Her figure reminds me of mine, 20 years ago. Isn't she beautiful? If you are bigger, flabbier or older, chances are you would love to have her figure. Believe it or not, there are many women out there who will say the same about your body! 10 years from now you will look at pictures of yourself and think "What the heck was my problem?" Why don't you just skip 10 years of self-hate, low self-esteem and mental torture and love yourself exactly how you are right now! You are beautiful, in this moment. Exactly as you are. <3

Your bum is amazing!

Tess Munster, awesome plus size model. Check her out on tumblr!

Tess Munster, aweseome plus size model. Check her out on tumblr: tessmunster.tumblr.com

- "You have an amazing bum!" - "No I haven't!" - "Yes, you do! I am jealous!" - "No I don't, don't even go there!" *angry* "Don't make me more insecure than I already am!" I heard this in a dressing room today. Poor girl, just wanted to make her friend feel good. And she was probably just honest and said what she thought in the moment. Her friend not only didn't believe her, it made her feel insecure! A compliment like that should make you happy, not insecure to the point that you get angry. If she would like herself, she would have just said "thank you" and added it to her gratitude list under compliments received. That's what you should do next time you get a compliment. Even if you think it's not true, don't say it. Saying it out loud would only give it more power. Count one, two, three. Say "Thank you!" And add it to your list of awesomeness. If you haven't got one yet, make one. Love yourself. You are beautiful and your bum is amazing! <3  

Skinny bitch ain’t no bitch


be kind to yourself and others

Skinny girls ain't no bitches. Nor should big girls be. A slight trend that I noticed mainly on tumblr and pinterest - one that I absolutely want to distance myself from - is curvy woman vs.  skinny woman. Phrases like "real women have curves"  and "curvy girls are better lovers" are very mild examples. Although I am writing from the perspective of a curvy woman, I don't glorify being overweight. I glorify self-love. Loving the body you are in, big or small, thick or thin. I started out looking at big girls wondering and judging -> looking at big girls in a non-judgmental way -> looking at big girls in a loving way. And during the process I learned to projected that onto myself and my body. Nobody needs to go to the extreme to hate skinny girls. They might fight a similar battle, you know? I found and reblogged a posts (see pic) from a girl who obviously felt offended by some of the stuff that gets posted on tumblr.
polaroidandguitar: Dear curvy girls, I don’t like being shamed for my body type during your road to self confidence. My body type issues/flaws are just as valid as yours. I’m human. Love, skinny girl
Although I use it and like it, I think tumblr is not for the faint-hearted. It can be raw, harsh, pornographic. Pick what you need and overlook the rest. Each one of us should concentrate on being the best and most loving and loveable woman we can be. We are all on a road to self-love and more happiness. We are all beautiful sisters. <3  
true and cute <3

true and cute <3