One of the most important steps on our way to self-love is to open ourselves to the idea that we are perfect. Perfectly imperfect, exactly as we are. Look at who you are. Look at who you wish you were. If you are a tomboyish kind of girl, be that. Don't waste energy on trying to be girly. Not only will it be tiring to you and add to your feeling of "not being right", you will be perceived by others as insecure or "off". Only by being who you are, you radiate in such a wonderful way, that others will find you "interesting, captivating and confident." Without any effort on your side. Should you be on the lookout for a boyfriend, or new friends, this is extremely important too. You can only find the right people who will love you for being you, when you ARE you. Of course that requires some kind of self awareness. Become honest with yourself. Maybe you admire a beautiful, outgoing girl in your school. And you would love to be like her. But are you? Do you think you could if you were skinnier? Chances are you wouldn't. Girls who are like her are like that, no matter what size they are. Maybe you are a little introvert. Don't force yourself to be different. Accept who you are. The world needs bold and quiet people. Maybe this bubbly girl is not such a good artist, writer or listener as you are. Find things you are really good at. Focus on those traits. Once you find one, you will discover more. Are you a good friend? Talk about it, write about it, be it. At some point you will not even feel the need to compare yourself to others anymore. That's when you love yourself. And accept others for who they are. No more judgement.
list of awesomeness. If you haven't got one yet, make one. Love yourself. You are beautiful and your bum is amazing! <3- "You have an amazing bum!" - "No I haven't!" - "Yes, you do! I am jealous!" - "No I don't, don't even go there!" *angry* "Don't make me more insecure than I already am!" I heard this in a dressing room today. Poor girl, just wanted to make her friend feel good. And she was probably just honest and said what she thought in the moment. Her friend not only didn't believe her, it made her feel insecure! A compliment like that should make you happy, not insecure to the point that you get angry. If she would like herself, she would have just said "thank you" and added it to her gratitude list under compliments received. That's what you should do next time you get a compliment. Even if you think it's not true, don't say it. Saying it out loud would only give it more power. Count one, two, three. Say "Thank you!" And add it to your
Learning to be fearless. Great title, great words, great girl. LearningToBeFearless on youtube
tumblr and pinterest - one that I absolutely want to distance myself from - is curvy woman vs. skinny woman. Phrases like "real women have curves" and "curvy girls are better lovers" are very mild examples. Although I am writing from the perspective of a curvy woman, I don't glorify being overweight. I glorify self-love. Loving the body you are in, big or small, thick or thin. I started out looking at big girls wondering and judging -> looking at big girls in a non-judgmental way -> looking at big girls in a loving way. And during the process I learned to projected that onto myself and my body. Nobody needs to go to the extreme to hate skinny girls. They might fight a similar battle, you know? I found and reblogged a posts (see pic) from a girl who obviously felt offended by some of the stuff that gets posted on tumblr.Skinny girls ain't no bitches. Nor should big girls be. A slight trend that I noticed mainly on
Although I use it and like it, I think tumblr is not for the faint-hearted. It can be raw, harsh, pornographic. Pick what you need and overlook the rest. Each one of us should concentrate on being the best and most loving and loveable woman we can be. We are all on a road to self-love and more happiness. We are all beautiful sisters. <3
polaroidandguitar: Dear curvy girls, I don’t like being shamed for my body type during your road to self confidence. My body type issues/flaws are just as valid as yours. I’m human. Love, skinny girl