One dress, three looks

  I played around with Polyvore again and found this blue dress, which is similar to one I own. These examples show how you can take any piece in your wardrobe and make it look completely different by changing jacket, shoes and accessories. This kind of dress is easy to find and it fits every body shape. By adjusting the belt, you make the most of yours. If you haven't got a waist, belt it under your bust. If you have a waist, belt it around there. Try to find a dress that hugs your figure instead of being too loose. Except when your shoulders are broader than your hips. In that case get a bigger one and create a ruched effect around the waist, so the bottom part looks wider. Take a bigger belt and wear it right under your bust. A bit like on the picture, but don't be shy with it. The more frill on the bottom, the more balanced and hourglassy you will look. The length depends on your height. If you are tall, you can wear any length. Ankle length or right above the knee will fit shorter girls best.  
Expensive and elegant combined with sleek black items

Expensive and elegant - combined with sleek black items

Dressed down in brown. Still chic but more relaxed

Dressed down in brown. Still chic but more relaxed

Another kind of elegant combined with rose gold and light beige

Another kind of elegant - combined with rose gold and beige

Late Summer finds

Summertime! The temperatures in London are around 25C, mostly sunny. Not an excellent Summer, but who wants to melt in 40C when you have a day job to do and a life to live? I have 2 outfit ideas for you, involving kaftan-tunics, I hope you like them.  
Jeans and flower tunic

Jeans and flower tunic. This style looks good on every body

City chic in turquoise, warmed up with dark red. Suits every body

City chic in turquoise, warmed up with dark red. Suits every body

Black is not the answer

Black clothes can look elegant and sophisticated. But try not to use them as an every day security blanket.  
black makes you invisible

black makes you invisible

Black is not the answer to everything. (In fact, that's 42). Yes, it can make you look a tiny bit thinner. What it definitely does though, is making you look invisible. We've had enough of it. No more hiding.   Start mellow, try something violet. Dark, dark red. Brown. Forest green. It will not add volume (it's nearly black, right?) but it will make you feel good and it will make other people aware of you.      
see the difference?

see the difference?

Seriously. Wearing colour can be your bungee jump. Do it and I guarantee you an adrenaline rush of excitement. Look at the people around you and see how they react to you differently. It will make you more approachable. Interesting. It can change your mood, your state of mind, your perspective. If you can't help it but wear black, at least wear something sexy, figure hugging. No more hiding. Turn it around, turn heads.   pics created via polyvore.com

I gained weight – and lost – and gained…

2012 was a year of change. I left a 7-year dead-end relationship and entered a 2-year on-and-off one, that caused a complete meltdown. During the first year I lost 80 lbs. Everybody complimented me on my weight loss. Well - yes, I lost weight. But I also went through the worst depression of my life, which everybody seemed to ignore. "At least you look so much better now that you lost weight, you must feel wonderful!" Ironically, I started loving myself as I was, so I didn't feel the need to lose more weight. It just continued because I couldn't eat anything for a while and my relation to food completely changed. I didn't notice any hunger during the day until I got stomach ache (that could be 4pm) And then I ate what I wanted. And I stopped when I was full. I continued to lose more and more weight and my skin started sagging. Upper arms, tummy, boobs, even my face lost shape. Of course I didn't want to go back to unhealthy eating habits of the past, but I didn't want to lose more weight either. Thankfully I managed to establish a routine and it leveled out. I gained about 20 lbs back. For the most part I consider myself healed from childhood wounds and self-hate. I feel confident, self-loving and content in my own body for the first time of my life. I love myself exactly as I am: soft, curvy and happy.
That was me 2012

That was me 2012

That was me 2014

That was me 2014

That's me now, 2015 starring as Russian Ice Skating Princess

That's me now, 2015 starring as Russian Ice Skating Princess